I'm kinda flighty... I am not going to lie. There for a while I went through a really rough patch, and I was typically known as the "no-show"/"not returning phone call" chick. It's my own fault, I created that reputation. However, in the past 6mos or so, I have gone out of my way to be social, invite people out, and return all calls/txts/invitations, etc. I can count on one hand the invites I have had to turn down, or wanted to turn down.
The other day I posted on my fb that I missed my friends. And I meant it, I really do. And the situation I put myself in has bitten me in the ass. Now they have started not sending invites, not returning calls or txts, etc. Part of the reason I hate fb is because it throws your friends socialness in your face... everyone posting on someone's wall about the awesome party, or upcoming weekend plans...and I haven't gotten an invite. Infact, in the last 2 months, I can count on 3 hands the # of events I have not gotten invited to.
Yes, I know I created this myself in the past, but I have tried to be social: calling/txting/fbing people who I haven't talked to in a while, etc. And while I know why I am no longer on the "friend invite" list, it still hurts... so much so that I just called J from work and told him we need new friends, and that I am contemplating deleting my old friends bc I am sick of getting my feelings hurt.
Ugh... I hate being such a downer!!!
You know, I have friends like that who get together and I'm like ummmmm...why not me?
ReplyDeleteI once wondered why my friends weren't inviting me to lunch in college and they told me because I was much to negative and they didn't want to be around me. I really took a hard look at myself and got some therapy. I'm not saying that this is your case - but before you get really upset and beat yourself down...take a look inside and see if maybe there's another reason.
I wondered about that... and I talked with my best friend last night, who is also friends with everyone else. She said it is probably because I didn't show up to other things I was invited to, so they probably figured "what's the point?". I'm not blaming it all on them, but I jus think that if someone is making an effort, the past should be the past.
ReplyDeleteI do need to do some definite "soul searching" for sure... there are times I am super happy, never been better, and then there are the past couple of days where I am emtional mess.
Hope you're having a great day, Alissa!!! Thanks for being so darn REAL... I need that!!!
I personally always invite every friend even if I know they aren't going to show or if they aren't going to acknowledge it. It shows that people do still care. I guess not all people are like that though. :-( Hope you feel better soon - I mean this may be the perfect opportunity to just find a new bunch of friends and start fresh....
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